Learn  new  skills  for coaching  change  in  your  congregations 

Vibrant Faith is delighted to partner with you on your upcoming retreat to equip and resources leaders to adapt to an ever-changing ministry landscape. Below you'll find readings, videos, and resources to develop your leadership and coaching skills.  The coaching curriculum provided on this page gives participants an overview of  the International Coaching Federation’s (ICF) eight core coaching competencies. Students will learn about these competencies and demonstrate ways to embed them into coaching sessions with individuals, teams, and organizations while at the retreat.  

Before or during the retreat, we invite you to:
  • Read the Coaching Manual.
  • Review the coaching terms found in the Appendix section of the Coaching Manual.
  • Watch 12  Core Competencies videos found below which will provide the foundational knowledge for leading an effective coaching conversation.
  • Listening to the coaching demonstrations (audios)

If you are seeking to use this event as a springboard toward becoming an ICF-certified coach, you'll need complete:
  1.   The assignments found at the end of each chapter in the Coaching Manual.
  2.   The assignments related to the 12 Core Competencies videos. 
  3.   Write a 1-2 reflection paper about the impact and application of core competencies when used in a coaching relationship.

 Besides the resources you find on this page you'll find additional tools for ministry on the following pages:
Resources for each of the training sessions covered during the retreat will be posted on this site after Labor.  This will include videos, slide shows, and handouts.
If there are ways to further prepare you for the learning event, feel free to call (612.865.0628) or email me.

Jim LaDoux
Director of Coaching Services, Vibrant Faith

Video 1  |  Welcome  to  the  Course

Meet Rev. Dr Felix, Villanueva, MCC, who is the creator and presenter of this asynchronous course. Our hope is that you'll embrace the coaching process, and find ways to use the 8 core competencies to spark growth in your clients and transformation in individuals, teams, congregations and communities. 

Key  Points  |  Suggestions  as  you  walk  through  the  course

  • Watch and listen to the videos and audios more than one time,
  • Write notes about the materials; submit your assignments promptly. Vibrant Faith's trainers will provide feedback on what is submitted.
  • If time permits, read and respond to coaching-related blogs on this site to gain insights from other students.


Video 2  |  Introduction  to  Coaching

Coaching is defined as ""partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspired them to maximize their personal and professional potential."  

Key  Points  |  What  is  coaching?

  • Coaching moves people  from great to greater
  • Coaching is about the journey
  • Coaching is not about fixing what is wrong.
  • Coaching recognizes that the client is created full and complete.
  • Coaches walk alongside clients, drawing out their insights, ideas, and wisdom.
  • Coaching leads to change resulting in concrete plans and next steps.
  • Coaches are more like architects (creating future plans) than archeologists.
  • Coaching is about companionship and accompaniment.


Video 3  |  Competency  1

ICF's core competencies are divided into 4 broad categories
  • 1  |  Setting the foundation
  • 2  |  Co-creating the relationship
  • 3 |  Communicating effectively, and
  • 4 |  Cultivating Learning and growth.  

Key Points  |  Demonstrating  Ethical  Practice

Demonstrating ethical practice is defined as "understanding and consistently applying coaching ethics and standards of coaching" by:
  • Demonstrating personal integrity and honesty in all interactions.
  • Being sensitive to the client's identity, environment, experiences, values, and beliefs.
  • Using appropriate and respectful language.
  • Abiding by ICF's Code of Ethics and core values.
  • Maintaining confidentiality.


Video 4  |  Competency  2

Competency 2 is about embodying a coaching mindset. This recognizes that clients are responsible for their own choices. Coaches must avoid fixing clients' problems or taking on the responsibilities of their clients.

Key Points  |  Embodying  a  coaching  mindset

  • Coaches develop ongoing reflective practices.
  • Coaches recognize that coaches also need coaches.
  • Coaches remain aware of the cultural differences and nuances.of their clients.
  • Coaches develop a heightened self-awareness and trust one's intuition.
  • Coaches develop and maintain an ability to regulate one's emotions.
  • Coaches mentally and emotionally prepare for coaching sessions.
  • Coaches seek help from outside sources when necessary.
  • Coaches preserve and maintain confidentiality.


Video 5  |  Competency  3

Establishing and maintaining agreements is part of co-creating the coaching relationship. 

Key Points  |  Establishing  and  maintaining  agreements

Demonstrating this competency involves:
  • Explaining what coach is and is not.
  • Creating a written contract with clients that establishes appropriate boundaries, lists what's included or not included in the coaching process, and clarifies the roles and responsibilities of the coach and the client.
  • Partnering with clients to determine client-coach compatibility.
  • Partnering with clients to identify and confirm what they  believe they need to accomplish during a coaching session and through the coaching process. 
  • Partnering with clients to identify and confirm measures of success.
  • Partnering with clients to manage the time and focus of each session.
  • Following the clients lead; coaching in the direction of the client's desired outcomes.
  • Recognizing that the client is always in the driver's seat.
  • Ending coaching sessions in ways that honor's the client's experience.


Video 6   | Competency  4

Cultivating trust and safety involves partnering with the client to create a safe, supportive environment that allows clients to share freely in an atmosphere of mutual respect and trust. 

Key Points  |  Cultivating  trust  and  safety

Coaches demonstrate this competency by:
  • Seeking to understand the  client within their context.
  • Seeing the situation through the client's eyes.
  • Showing respect for the client's identity, perceptions, style, and language and adapts one's coaching to the client.
  • Acknowledging and respecting the client's unique talents, insights, and work in the coaching process.
  • Showing support, empathy, and concern for the client.
  • Acknowledging and supporting the client's expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs, and suggestions.
  • Demonstrating openness and transparency to build trust with the client.


Video 7  |  Competency  5

Maintaining presence which is defined as "being fully conscience and present with the client, employing a style that is open, flexible, grounded, and confident. 

Key Points  |  Maintaining  presence

This competency is demonstrated by:
  • Being open, observant, empathetic, and responsive to the client.
  • Demonstrates curiosity during the coaching process.
  • Manages one's emotions to stay present with the client.
  • Demonstrates confidence in working with strong client emotions during the coaching process.
  • Is comfortable working in a space of not knowing.
  • Creates or allows space for silence, pause and reflection.


Video 8  |  Competency  6

Active listening is defined as focusing on what the client is and is not saying to fully understand what is being communicated in the context of client systems and to support client self-expression.

Key Points  |  Listen  Actively

Active listening involves:
  • Considering the client's context, identity, environment, experiences, values, and beliefs to enhance understanding of what the client is communicating.
  • Reflecting or summarizing what the client communicates to ensure clarity and understanding.
  • Recognizing and inquiring when there is more to what the client is communicating.
  • Noticing, acknowledging, and exploring what the client's emotions, energy shifts, non-verbal cues or other behaviors. 
  • Integrating the client's words, tone of voice, and body language to determine the full meaning of what is being communicated.
  • Noticing trends in the client's behaviors and emotions across sessions to discern themes, and patterns.


Video 9  |  Competency  7

Evoking awareness is defined as "facilitating client learning and awareness by using tools and techniques such as powerful questioning, silence, metaphor or analogy.

Key Points  |  Evoking  Awareness

This competency is demonstrated by:
  • Considering the client's experience when deciding what might be most useful.
  • Challenging the client as a way to evoke awareness or insight.
  • Asking questions about the client, such as their way of thinking, values, needs, wants, and beliefs.
  • Asking questions that help the client explore beyond current thinking.
  • Inviting the client to share more about their experience in the moment.
  • Noticing what is working to enhance client progress.
  • Adjusting the coaching approach in response to the client's needs.
  • Helping the client identify factors that influence current and future patterns of behavior, thinking, or emotion.
  • Inviting the client to generate ideas about how they can move forward and what they are willing and able to do.
  • Supporting the client in reframing perspectives.
  • Sharing observations, insights and feelings without attachment.


Video 10  |  Competency  8

Facilitating client growth which is defined as "partnering with the client to transform learning and insight into action, along with promoting client autonomy in the coaching process.

Key Points  |  Evoking  Awareness

This competency is demonstrated by:
  • Helping the client "land the plane" and have a plan of action.
  • Working with the client to integrate new awareness, insight or learning into their world view and behaviors.
  • Partners with the client to develop goals, actions, and accountability measures that integrate and expand new learning.  
  • Assists the client in identifying accountability partners.
  • Acknowledges and supports client autonomy in the design of goals, actions, and methods of accountability.
  • Supports the client in identifying potential results or learning from identified action steps.
  • Invites the client to consider how to move forward including resources, support, and potential barriers.
  • Partners with the clients to summarize learning and insight within or between sessions.
  • Celebrates the clients progress and successes.
  • Partners with the client to close the session.


Video 11  |  Powerful  Questioning  Approaches

Powerful questioning is a coach’s most important skill for provoking creative thinking and meaningful responses from the coaching client. This lesson provides a deeper look at creating powerful questions that help the client develop new awareness and prompt them into action.

Key Points  |  Asking  Powerful  Questions

  • Ask short (8 words or less), open-ended questions.
  • Allow for silence following the questions to allow reflection time.
  • Avoid introducing or explaining your questions.
  • Ask questions that address a client's assumptions, attitudes, actions, and approaches.
  • Ask questions that serve the client's desired outcomes for the session.


Video 12  |  Cultivating  Trust  &  Safety

Key Points  |  Asking  Powerful  Questions

Building trust and an environment of safety is crucial in any coaching situation This video will highlight some of he essential elements that create a culture of trust and safety. Consider these questions:
  • What are possible pitfalls or ethical boundaries that can be breached when trust and safety are not established?
  • What does failing to build trust and safety mean for the client?
  • What does failing to build trust and safety mean for the coach?



Which core competencies are you most comfortable with or skilled at?

Which competency is one that you need to be more mindful of?

What gets in the way of being an effective coach?

What was the most important for you from these videos?

What will you do differently as a result of watching the videos?