Caring Enough to Confront
One of the traits of an effective leader is being willing to speak one’s truth in a grace-filled manner. None of us typically enjoy having these crucial conversations with one another yet we all suffer when they don’t occur. When we fail to address problems or challenges when they’re small, we allow them to become larger, more intractable ones. We might think they go away but more often than not, they simply go underground and show up elsewhere.
Crucial conversations and confrontations are a natural part of life. They’re a key to bringing out the best in ourselves and others. They need to take place in our work and ministry settings as well as in our homes. For me, these conversations often show up as part of our Saturday evening “family meetings.” In coaching relationships, they occur during our monthly “check-in” times. If dealt with early, they’re usually brief conversations. And let’s face it, there’s almost never a “right” time to have these encounters – let’s learn to simply have them as they occur.
What holds you back from caring enough to confront? What price do you pay for not addressing problems as they occur? What words or scripts do you use to begin these types of conversations? I welcome your insights.